The amount of people who have taken Cecil and Carlos’s extremely sweet, healthy and happy relationship and turned it into a creepy stalker or disturbing rapist style fic in the WTNV is disturbing.
You are taking a homoromantic relationship that is healthy and turning it into…
You know, I really don’t care to know why people find the subjugation and unwilling humiliation of another human being “sexy,” and saying “that’s common to any fandom” doesn’t excuse the extremely problematic and triggering nature of these fics. I honestly don’t care how “common” it is because I as a rape survivor don’t want to have to sift through noncon after noncon after noncon or listen to people’s disgusting fantasies.
People not tagging problematic and potentially triggering material is a big problem, I’ll agree, but wasn’t the topic of your first post as I understood it.
I was only offering this first reply because I had the same questions that you seemed to (re: why is it written?) and I read a few things that were very informative for me, when I first entered fandom, and then I just saw a few fandoms hence the “common” thing which is just something I have noticed, that’s all, and I’m sorry if it came across another way.
I know it’s trendy to fight the system and cry that we are all becoming slaves of technology, but this attitude overlooks that computers and phones are tools for communicating. When someone thinks I’m an idiot smiling at a machine, I’m actually smiling at my girlfriend who is 10000 miles away and whom I would have never met if not for these newfangled electronics. As they say: when the wise man points to the moon, the fool looks at the finger.
This is a topic that I’ve been wanting to tackle for a while now; much credit to this excellent post for bringing it to the front of my brain.
It is really refreshing to see something take on the kneejerk outrage at people staring at screens. I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, because I’ve realized the only thing that seems to keep my depression at bay is staring at screens. Maybe its a computer screen, or my TV, or an iPad, iPhone, movie theater, whatever. It is something I can fixate on. I don’t want to say its distracting me, necessarily, but I know when I’m without it even for just a few minutes, I start getting consumed with negativity and sadness. When I’ve got a screen in front of me, I might still be depressed by I’m pushing it aside for a little while. It doesn’t just have to be about communication, either. Passive interaction is cool, too. I think for a lot of people, the glow from the screen they are buried in might be saving their life and that never gets considered by those who just lazily scold and snicker to make themselves feel better. Let people have their screens.
People commute a lot more than they used to. This means spending a lot more time stuck in cramped spaces with strangers. For some reason, to some people, unless you are always willing to interact with strangers (whatever that may mean, I can’t really imagine… Does it mean you have to get on the train with the stupidest smile possible on your face and just start chatting at people?) you are an antisocial asshole.